Yesterday was one of those days that I just didn’t want to be a part of humanity anymore. I mentioned in a previous post that every woman I have ever asked has been sexually assaulted at some point in her life. I was talking to a friend yesterday and she realized that what she had previously thought of as a bad sexual experience was in fact rape because she said “no” multiple times during the experience.
She started dwelling on what she could have done differently. It is never the person who was sexually assaulted’s responsibility to have done anything differently. Often the assaulter is taking advantage of power differentials, social norms, and trust in a way that makes it less likely or impossible for the person being assaulted to fight back. It is not your fault and you are not responsible for what happened to you.
I wanted to do another post on the guard for self defense today. But instead I will focus on how jiu jitsu and yoga can help in healing from sexual assault. It is not your responsibility to keep bad people from doing bad things. No matter what happened in the past – remember you are strong and have the power to heal.