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The Difference between Stretching and Yoga – For Jiu Jitsu!

I was talking to a fellow teammate and his wife at a party and was part of this conversation (its paraphrased because this happened a couple of weeks ago).

Teammate: I’ve been doing yoga recently to increase my flexibility for jiu jitsu!

Teammate’s wife: You haven’t been doing yoga, you’ve been stretching.  They’re different.

Teammate: What?  How are they different?  I’m using a yoga mat.

Teammate’s wife: Just because you’re using a yoga mat does not make it yoga.  Yoga involves more, like specific poses and breathing exercises.

Teammate: I breathe while stretching.

I don’t think my teammate left the conversation with any greater understanding of the difference between stretching and yoga.  But what is the difference?  And does the difference matter?

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Healing with Yoga and Jiu Jitsu

Yesterday was one of those days that I just didn’t want to be a part of humanity anymore.  I mentioned in a previous post that every woman I have ever asked has been sexually assaulted at some point in her life.  I was talking to a friend yesterday and she realized that what she had previously thought of as a bad sexual experience was in fact rape because she said “no” multiple times during the experience.

She started dwelling on what she could have done differently.  It is never the person who was sexually assaulted’s responsibility to have done anything differently.  Often the assaulter is taking advantage of power differentials, social norms, and trust in a way that makes it less likely or impossible for the person being assaulted to fight back.  It is not your fault and you are not responsible for what happened to you.

I wanted to do another post on the guard for self defense today.  But instead I will focus on how jiu jitsu and yoga can help in healing from sexual assault.  It is not your responsibility to keep bad people from doing bad things.  No matter what happened in the past – remember you are strong and have the power to heal.

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Escape your Own Head: How to Get the Most out of Jiu Jitsu

You hear a lot in jiu jitsu that you should leave your ego at the door, don’t focus on winning or losing, and avoid negative self talk.  Sure – these are all great advice but how do you do it?  It’s certainly not as easy as packing your gym bag, remembering to leave your ego on the shelf at home, and going to train.  I struggle with negative self talk in all facets of life and I know my life would be easier if I could just be nicer to myself.

So how do you tell your mind to just shut up so you can train?

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How I am Using Mindfulness for Pain

Honestly, I’m not doing great right now.  The pain from my shoulder surgery is pretty much constant – which is exhausting – and not being able to do normal life tasks on my own is frustrating.  So I’m writing this to remind myself how I used mindfulness techniques before surgery to deal with the pain.

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