Thoughts

Women’s Experiences in Jiu Jitsu

Starting this blog has helped me realize that there is no one experience for women in jiu jitsu.  This may sound pretty dumb because I knew before that there was no one experience for men in jiu jitsu.  But the way jiu jitsu is approached for women makes it seem like there is only one possible experience.

I have had the opportunity to experience jiu jitsu in many different ways – and I’m actually grateful I took so much time off because it gave me that opportunity.  Looking back at my own experiences and reflecting on my partners’ experiences has made me appreciate how different the jiu jitsu journey can be. Continue reading “Women’s Experiences in Jiu Jitsu”

Self-Defense

The First 5 Self Defense Moves I Would Teach a Friend

I was talking with a couple of friends over dinner and the topic of women’s self defense came up.  My friend (who does not train jiu jitsu) showed the rest of us (who do train jiu jitsu) the self defense move she learned.  She’s a very small woman who is so non-violent that she was reluctant to finish the choke on my husband who outweighs her by 75 pounds and started jiu jitsu when he was 15.

I was a little concerned that the self defense technique was a choke from the back – it just seems like an unlikely situation for her to be in.  If the only self-defense technique she knows is the choke, how will she get into position to finish the choke?  Also, how practical is this move against a larger person?  Sure, if she is able to get and stabilize the position, the choke would be effective.  But with no experience against a resisting opponent this doesn’t seem likely.

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Thoughts

Not Another BJJ for Women Post

I have a predicament.  On the one hand I’m always trying to recruit more women to jiu jitsu and to find ways to make jiu jitsu feel more accessible.  On the other hand, I find endless articles and videos on how to do your hair for jiu jitsu, nutition for women grapplers, and what to wear to class to be a little superficial and demeaning.  Women in jiu jitsu do more than show up and try to get in shape.  We do techniques and roll and have other concerns too damnit.

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